Gnightgirl, local soldier's mom, award winning homefront hero for her efforts to support the troops, and all around inspiring lady in spite of her modesty... shared a story, introducing her readers to a friend she can only call "D":
D's partner's name is Clay. He is 43 years old, and has served in the military for 20 years. Clay is one of at least 65,000 gay soldiers serving this country, and as I said, is in Iraq, right this minute.
When Brian was deployed, I got a phone call from a counselor. I got names and numbers for support groups. I got coaching on mailing, and people to talk to if I became scared or sad. There's a Family Readiness Group for me.
There is nothing like this for D, or for others in his situation. He can't easily seek out support without risking Clay's career. I can go on and on, but D says it better, in his letter to President Obama, asking him to repeal the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy:This is my friend, D.
...I am compelled to remind you that there are tens of thousands like me who continue to suffer under the current policy. My partner is currently serving inThe day he deployed, I dropped him off far from the his base's main gate, and he walked alone in the dark and the rain to report for duty. Where the rest of his buddies were surrounded by spouses and children at mobilization ceremonies, he stood by himself.
Iraq, and is in a situation where he is under fire on a daily basis. He's a good soldier, and our country needs him to continue doing the excellent job that he
has been recognized for.
The phone trees don't have my name on them, and base support services don't apply—even though we've been together for 16 years and are raising a beautiful child together.Our communication is self-censored and we are cruelly unable to nurture each other at the exact moment we both need it the most.
If something were to happen to him no one from his unit will call me. If, like so many good soldiers before him, he gives that last full measure of devotion, no one will come knock on my door. No one will present me with a flag. It is, and would be, as if the most important thing in his life—his family—never existed.I am not sure if I can adequately convey the mixture of fear, pride, heartache and hope I feel, all jumbled together, on a daily basis. But I ask you to consider relieving the burden of fear and dishonor from our brave men and women who risk being punished simply for whom they love.
For my part, I'm going to pull the "lazy-blogger" and re-post part of my rant about Prop 8 (overturning gay marriage):
For those who consider liberty the ultimate goal of both government and man to defend, with their life if necessary, it is time to abandon the selfish and immoral desires to influence our government to cherish the abolition of liberty of others to defend their morality against those with a differing opinion. Their claims of tradition fall on deaf ears. Their claims of religious righteousness are as corrupt as their dedication to liberty.
To claim that one is an adherent to the Constitution and the limits upon government to which it limits to secure the blessing of the greatest gift that man could ever achieve, by natural law, right, or that of the divine... regardless of where you believe such blessings originate, allow such debates to continue in the Church, in your community, among your fellow man about the propriety of your differences. Stop and look in the mirror on what you hold most dear. Is it the liberty you claim to cherish, or the power to force others to adhere to your point of view?
Shall we be free, or shall we go down the beaten path of authoritarianism, fascism, and theocracy that empower their government to enforce an opinion, antithetical to everything that liberty stands for, that free men have little reason to prohibit, even if they disagree?
Gay men and women are fighting for the right to DIE to defend your liberty. They are crying out for the basic tenets of the Constitution you claim to love, to secure the blessings of LIBERTY, that you claim to so dearly cherish... just so that they may enjoy the same legal protections and entitlements as their peers.
You can fall back on claims of tradition, but they will consistently fall upon deaf ears on the subject of marriage as tradition has often precluded interracial, international, inter-religious, and even inter-tribal marriages depending on when and where one looks. We have shaken loose the chains of oppression on many a tradition long before this current petty debate. All who cherish liberty should quickly see through the semantics being employed to derail the fundamental argument that demands that justice be blind to the circumstances and our prejudice. The blatant favoritism for one tradition over the beliefs of others has absolutely no place in government. And if you cannot bring yourself to end the favoritism of one class, you must share it to all. The slippery slope is your burden, not the burden of gays. You are welcome to repair it, but absolute not welcome to continue it.
It's one thing to fight to keep the pledge, with or without the "under God" bit, in schools. Quite another, and far more important, to fight for "liberty and justice for all."